Don't play games in relationships!

We all have friends. A lot gets talked about friendships. Everyone wants a true friend, and many of us believe that we have a friend who can be called a true friend.

What kind of relations do friends share?

When can we call a friend a true friend, and when can our friends take us as their true friend. After a romantic relationship, friendships are the most important relationships we can have. Though all of us have family and distant family, most of us rely on friends for advice, comfort and inspiration. How do we define a relation that can be called as one of true friendship?

Many of us started a relationship with our lovers as just friends, and how often have we forgotten about that after 1, 2, 3 or a few years later in a committed relationship together??

Yes, there should be a difference between friendship and love, but these two do share some common grounds. After marriage and after going into a committed relationship together, we no longer see our partners as friends. We expect them to speak, talk, behave and react in particular ways that we like to see.

When I make a date with my friends, my friends are always punctual. They remember important dates. They respect me; ironically they can remember what i like and dislike better than my lover. After going into a relationship with the love of my life, my lover is always late in a date with me. He expects me to pay every time for his bills. He cannot remember certain important dates. He speaks rudely at times...

I am guilty of such behaviors too, at times, of course, I am not saying I'm all perfect. You see, as humans, we always give ourselves excuses. We will tell ourselves : "oh, he (or she) is my partner, so being my lover, they must accept my flaws, yes it must work that way!"

Remember, your lover needs you as a true friend too! Don't ever forget that!

1) What do want and need in your Relationship (or Marriage)?

I want to be her lover and her best friend. I want her to be the same for me.

2) What do you want and need in Romance and Dating? What EXACTLY do you want from your Mate.

Someone who is true, honest, "real"... who knows how to communicate with with me. She should be open with me. I shouldn't have to "guess" what she's thinking or what she wants.

3) What do you want and need in Sex?

I want a partner who enjoys sex as much as I do. I'm a very passionate person and always put her needs first. I enjoy making sure she's having an orgasm (or multiples) and really having a great time. Once I satisfy her then, then I like to be satisfied.

4) What do you look for in a Mate (or Soul mate)?

Someone who is passionate about me... like I am of her. I believe my soulmate and I are on the same "wavelength"... i.e., we get each other. Someone who is honest, sincere, trustworthy, not into game-playing and childish ways. Someone who keeps fit and enjoys similar interests with me.

5) What turns you on?

intellligence, a fit and toned body, someone athletic, romance, long nights of passion, candle-lit dinners followed by intimacy, intimacy, being passionate with my lover

6) What kind of woman turns you off?

liars, cheaters, those who like to play games, those who don't communicate, immaturity, childish games, smoking, those who use drugs, poor hygiene

7) What do you (Secretly) wish your partner would know about you if you have a chance to convey that to your mate?

That I'm very honest and trustworthy. That I'm "real"... I don't play childish games. I know what true love is and I want her to experience true love with me. I want to connect with her on every level!

8) What is the greatest challenge you have about your relationship/marriage??

Lack of experience, lack of understanding what true love is, the games people play

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Don't play games in relationships!

The very first sign of a very good friend, not necessarily a true friend is that we are not worried about courtesies. You will call your friend at any hour and talk without any thought of time in your mind. Similarly, whenever you need support, you will call a very good friend and ask him/her to help you out.

They expect the same from you. Another important trait of such relations is that we are not much worried about exposing ourselves. We speak about everything in our mind without worrying about what our friends will think. We are sure that they will take our talk in the spirit it was made. We are unguarded and open with friends in our talk.

A true friend is a little more than a very good friend. A true friend will support you even if it hurts his or her own interest. A true friend will understand your motives and needs and will be with you without any analysis or criticism.

A true friend will come forward to help without any request and be with us in need without showing it or expecting anything in return. With a true friend, you can be sure that you will get help to the extent possible by him (her).

Nothing will remain unturned. A mother is a true friend of her children. If we share such relations with an adult we can say that we are true friends.

A true friend makes no excuses of having work or appointments or anything but will be with you whenever you need him/her. In your hour of desperation, a true friend will support you even if the whole world opposes you. A true friend is not an opportunist.

A true friend means to have someone who is like mother, as I said earlier. Instead of having hundreds of good friends, if you have a true friend, treat yourself lucky. If you can also become a true friend of someone, you will be blessed, because it is much easier for all of us to expect but very difficult to give.

Be a true friend yourself first!
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